I love movies. I’ll watch almost any movie that takes itself mildly serious. With that said, I’m a married man and my wife is the opposite. She’s not gonna watch sci-fi, horror, action, unless there’s some sort of romantic twist to it. She likes the “hot tea”, as the kids say. There’s gotta be drama or comedy or some romantic element. For me, however, if the description and the visuals appeal to the right vibe of the night, I’ll say yes to it.

So we watch a lot of Rom-Coms and relationship dramas. The other night we watched a great movie called All I See is You (2016) starring Blake Lively and Jason Clarke. Here’s the trailer:

This movie was beautifully shot, and the story was fascinating. It’s about the challenges a husband and wife face as the wife is cured of her lifelong blindness. What a great concept! I had never heard of this movie and we happened to find it on the Starz app. We read the description and, without even seeing a trailer or looking at reviews, my wife and I jumped in.

What’s great about this movie is how this couple’s world shifts as she regains her sight. Imagine you’re married for years with an imagination of how your spouse looks and then one day you see what they really look like. What would the ramifications be? What would you think about your home? Your wardrobe? Your friends and family? What is sex like when you’re blind? How would it feel to finally have physical independence?

I highly recommend this movie. It’s not perfect, but it’s special in its own way. The story explores blindness in a way which I have never considered before. My wife and I agreed that the ending could’ve been much, much better, but it was well worth the ride.

So with that super quick review aside, there was something that kept popping up in my head as we watched this movie – this couple is suffering from the same problem I see couples suffering from in almost all relationship movies. Whether they’re fighting or falling for someone else or losing their confidence or one is angry with the other, these idiots just don’t talk to one another…

I mean, am I alone here? Am I new or something? Do you talk to your spouse? What’s with people not talking to each other? Like why’d you even get married if you can’t talk? Is this just a movie thing or is this the way it is for couples?

Now, perhaps to you, I sound like some high-horsed @$$hole and people don’t have marriages where they can talk to one another. I beg your forgiveness, I guess that could be true, but seriously, what’s the point of monogamy if you can’t talk to the person you’re stuck with for the rest of your life? Good luck with that!

Now, I’ll admit that I’m a nut with this. Like maybe I’m a freak, coz I won’t let anyone go to sleep if I’m bothered by something. I’ve got that Sicilian temper and if I don’t release the ole vent after a while, I’ll explode over an egg yolk popping on a frying pan. But when I watch these movies, I often wonder, “Couldn’t they have resolved this whole damn thing with a little conversation? Instead, you see couples lying and tricking one another. They’ll cheat out of spite instead of saying, “Hey, I’m feeling a little off about something.” Do I live in a bubble? Is my marriage just newish and doomed to inevitibly horrific movie-level conflict? Is this what happens in reality?

Now, of course, if this couple just had a reasonable conversation and sorted themselves out, would we have a story to tell? Probably not. Story is conflict after all. It’s like I always say, sometimes I’d prefer it when interesting things happen rather than good things. Coz if everything goes perfect, then where’s the excitement?

I’ll leave it here though, if you’re a movie couple in a movie marriage or relationship and if you’re thinking of cheating or lying or faking something or swapping out something or getting-back-with-your-ex-coz-they-just-don’t-understand-your-nuance or tricking them or you overheard a phone call and you think they’re about to dump you or you saw them hugging someone else and you’ve jumped to a few conclusions or you think they’re planning something nefarious and you’re gonna spy on them or you think they don’t want you anymore and so you run into the arms of another…. just relax, don’t be dumb. Go talk to the guy or gal and sort yourself out. If it’s a good movie, you’ll end up with some sort of resolution. Best case, you stay together. Worst case, you find out you’re better off without them. In the case of All I See is You… well, let’s just say this guy seriously overreacted at the end… I leave it at that.

This has been a brain dump from ya boy, Timmy C! Thanks for listening!

Enjoy!